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Divorce mediation offers many advantages including privacy, lower cost, reduced conflict but it’s not the right solution for everyone. One of the most important parts of the divorce process is knowing whether mediation is a good fit for your situation, or if another approach may better protect your rights and well-being.
At Off the Record Mediation Services LLC, we help couples across California make that call with clarity and care. Whether you’re just beginning to explore your options or hitting roadblocks in the process, we’re here to provide honest guidance without pressure.
Signs Mediation Is a Good Fit
Mediation works well for couples who want to avoid court and are open to working together—even if there’s disagreement. If the following statements resonate with you, mediation could be an excellent choice:
- You and your spouse are willing to communicate respectfully
- Both parties are open to compromise
- You agree to full financial disclosure
- You want to co-create solutions rather than have a judge decide for you
- You value privacy and efficiency in the divorce process
Even if the relationship is strained, mediation can be a calm and constructive space to resolve issues with professional support.
When Mediation May Not Be Appropriate
While many divorces can be mediated successfully, there are certain situations where mediation may not be safe or productive. These include:
- History of domestic violence or coercive control
- One party is unwilling to participate in good faith
- Significant power imbalances, where one person dominates decisions
- Suspicions of hidden assets or financial dishonesty
- A refusal to provide required documentation
In these cases, litigation or attorney-led negotiation may offer stronger protection and accountability. Your safety and ability to make informed decisions always come first.
Can Mediation Still Work If We Don’t Agree on Everything?
Yes. In fact, most couples enter mediation with unresolved disagreements. The goal isn’t to start with full agreement—it’s to create a space where mutual understanding can be built.
At Off the Record, Dorit L. Goikhman helps bridge communication gaps, identify common ground, and guide you through productive negotiation—even if things start off rocky. Many couples are surprised by how much progress they can make with the right structure and support.
What If Mediation Doesn’t Work Out?
Sometimes, despite best efforts, mediation may reach an impasse. If that happens, you still have options:
- You can transition to attorney-led negotiation
- Move forward with litigation for unresolved issues
- Use what was accomplished in mediation to inform a court-based settlement
Even a partial agreement reached in mediation can save time and money later in the legal process.
Still Not Sure? Let’s Talk It Through
Choosing how to handle your divorce is a deeply personal decision. Mediation is not about avoiding tough conversations rather it’s about approaching them differently, with dignity, structure, and support.
At Off the Record Mediation Services LLC, we offer thoughtful guidance to help you decide if mediation is right for your family. No pressure. Just clarity.
Contact Us to Explore Your Options
Whether you’re just beginning to think about divorce or need help deciding your next step, we’re here for you. Call us at 866-223-4153 or book your free 30-minute consultation online. Let’s talk honestly about what’s right for you—and move forward with confidence.