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Taking the first step toward divorce mediation can feel overwhelming—but knowing what to expect helps ease uncertainty and build confidence. Whether you’re navigating a peaceful separation or facing some emotional tension, your first mediation session sets the tone for a more focused, cooperative divorce process.
At Off the Record Mediation Services LLC, we guide clients across California—including Orange County and the Bay Area—through every stage of divorce mediation, beginning with a well-structured, supportive initial meeting.
The Purpose of the First Divorce Mediation Session
Your first session is all about laying the foundation. The mediator will get to know you, clarify your goals, and explain the process so that both parties understand what to expect. It’s not about resolving everything in one meeting—it’s about getting on the same page and creating a roadmap.
At this stage, your mediator will help:
- Identify the issues to be discussed (e.g., child custody, property division, support)
- Establish guidelines for communication during sessions
- Outline the steps in the mediation process
- Set expectations for what will be needed (documents, timelines, etc.)
What to Bring to Your First Session
Preparation helps the process move more smoothly. While you don’t need every detail on day one, it’s helpful to bring:
- A basic list of your assets and debts
- Recent income information (pay stubs, 1099s, W2s)
- A copy of your marriage certificate
- Any prenup or postnup agreements (if applicable)
- A willingness to listen, speak, and collaborate
If children are involved, it’s also helpful to begin thinking about potential custody arrangements or parenting plans.
What Happens During the Meeting?
You’ll meet with the mediator together (or separately, if preferred). At Off the Record, Dorit L. Goikhman creates a respectful, neutral space where both parties feel safe to speak openly. She’ll ask questions to understand your unique circumstances and provide clarity on how mediation works—without taking sides or offering legal advice.
You’ll also discuss:
- The format of future sessions (joint or individual)
- How communication will be handled outside of sessions
- What paperwork or information needs to be collected
- Payment structure and scheduling preferences
This meeting is informative, not adversarial. There’s no pressure to agree on anything just yet—only a shared goal of moving forward.
How Long Will the First Session Take?
Most first meetings last 60 to 90 minutes, depending on the complexity of your situation and how much needs to be covered. If both parties are prepared, the process moves more efficiently.
What If We’re Not on the Same Page Yet?
That’s completely normal. Many couples begin mediation with different perspectives, and that’s okay. The role of the mediator is to bridge those differences and create a path forward. You don’t need to have everything figured out—just a willingness to try.
Ready to Take the First Step?
The first mediation session is your chance to start fresh—with clarity, purpose, and support. At Off the Record Mediation Services LLC, we’re here to guide you from day one.
Call us today at 866-223-4153 or book your free 30-minute consultation online to get started. You bring the questions—we’ll bring the clarity.